Somehow I didn't get notified of your reply, so I wonder if you'll see that I did finally respond; in any case thanks for your post. I don't get out to L.I. much these days but I graduated at S.U.N.Y. Stony Brook and have lived or worked in Brooklyn, South Hampton, and many places in between.
There's at least one N.J. member (sdegenov) who's posted in the New England thread, assuming she is interested, Manhattan might be a convenient place to meet—unless you are way out east.
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